To All the Men Who Support Women with Breast Cancer

To All the Men Who Support Women with Breast Cancer
Journey_Toward_Pink_Path_Jessica_Grono On the occasion of Father’s Day, I wanted to take some time to reflect on the men in the lives of women who are dealing with breast cancer. I have so many feelings and thoughts on these men who support women in any stage of breast cancer. Some men feel powerless or give in to their own selfishness and leave a relationship due to cancer. Fortunately, I do not believe that is the normal reaction, and most men weather the storm. Recently, I had a scare with one of my implants, which led me to make an appointment with my plastic surgeon. As I sat in the waiting room for a long time, I observed the people around me. Keep in mind that the department I go to is only for women who have breast cancer. My first observation is sad because of how many women are in the office. Too many. Breast cancer is a devastating cancer that touches too many lives of all ages. My second observation is happy because of how many men accompanied their wives, mothers, daughters, partners, sisters, or aunts. Each appeared to be full of kindness and concern. Sitting in the office took my memory back to the first time that I sat in the same office for the first time with my husband. We had recently learned that I had DCIS (ductal carcinoma in situ) breast cancer and were told that I needed a mastectomy. My dad urged me to get a second opinion, just for my own peace of mind. From day one, my dad supported me with information and companionship. So, I made the appointment and sat next to my husband
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3 comments

  1. AditiGhosh says:

    To All the Men Who Support Women with Breast Cancer.It’s really awesome and appreciate them who supported women with breast cancer.
    Make a pledge with Fight Cancer Global to fight against cancer
    Let’s beat cancer and make a Cancer free world.

  2. Ricco says:

    As a supportive husband for my wife I wanted to thank you for your kind words an and congratulate you for having a good man next to you.
    Nothing compares to have the news that you have cancer and we, husbands, cannot complain about our position. However it is tough to see someone you love suffering and equally tough to feel powerless while our role is to protect our family (I know it sounds a little old-fashioned but a lot of us feel like that).
    Sometimes I felt (and sincerely wished) I was the one with cancer. I was incredibly fortunate to have a wife that did not break down and stayed strong during all the treatment. She still is (NED for almost 20 month, TNBC stage 2 grade 3).
    Right from the get-go we formed the strongest team possible, dividing and conquering everything in our new life. I would do all the research, have all the discussions with the medical team, read about diet and supplements, organize week-end get-aways to relax etc. so she could focus on treatment, resting and be physically active.
    I created a support page on FB to share news and progress in her treatment with our friends (some being very remote) so she did not had to constantly talk about this with them and rather have them change her mind. I organized friends food delivery on days she had treatment and set-up a schedule for those who wanted to go with her during her injections. We had the most incredible support group around us. I will never forget was our friends did for us, how they stepped out of their daily life routine to help and support us.
    Sometimes (often) I found myself crying like a baby and I always found a shoulder that was not my wife’s so I could hide this and keep being strong for her.
    I informed work and prioritized being with her during medical appointments (did not missed a single one!) and when she needed me.
    I am not saying this to be celebrated but to give some ideas to other husbands out there on how you can be actively supporting your wife and have the feeling that you are having just a bit of control during the storm. Running away is not an option here.
    Good luck to all of you, you are stronger than you think!

  3. David Rowles says:

    My fiance is 2 weeks away from her double mastectomy . I have been strong through everything so far but am starting to feel the anxiety of all of this creeping in on me but I will be her rock. I just feel helpless at times.

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