If you’re moving through an experience with breast cancer, the last thing you may want is someone touching your chest – or any other part of your body – for pleasure. Sexuality can take a hit as a result of any protracted illness, but breast cancer in particular presents unique challenges for getting your magic back.
If you’re “not in the mood,” it might help to know how cancer could be influencing your mindset. Being aware of issues many cancer patients face can inspire you to be proactive in giving yourself a full recovery. Doing nothing will likely make the situation worse, and there’s lots of resources out there to help.
So… take a look at this list. Then, plan a candlelit dinner for two and let the magic happen.
Pain
Chemo-induced menopause, hormone therapy, surgical scars and other medical treatments can leave you with dry vaginal walls and pain, making intimacy painful. But wait! There’s a cream for that… Don’t be shy. Talk to your doctor or pharmacist and find out what will work for you.
Stress, Depression and Anxiety
Nothing kills the mood faster than a bad mood. If your teeth are clenched, your foot is tapping, and you can’t remember the last time you laughed out loud, chances are you could have a touch of depression or anxiety. According to the American Cancer Society, up to one in four cancer patients suffer from clinical depression. Don’t suffer in silence. Get the help you need so you and your partner can enjoy the full spectrum of a loving relationship.
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Hormones
Here’s a news flash: hormone therapy can impact your hormones! If your libido got lost in the sea of prescription medicine on your nightstand, it’s time to get it back. Reclaim what’s rightfully yours and ask your doctor for help. I guarantee, it won’t be the first time she’s heard that question and it won’t be the last.
Distance
Going without physical intimacy during the long months of treatment can make you and your partner disconnect and forget about the pleasure of sex. Make a date to change the status quo. Start by holding hands and move forward from there. If it feels too weird, find a resource to help. You deserve it.
Body Image
Hair and breasts are two of the most visually prominent features that many women feel define their sexuality. If chemo has taken your hair and surgery has taken your breasts, it can be easy to feel unattractive. Remember, resources are out there to enhance your physical looks and to improve your overall self image. Like beauty, confidence starts from within. Reach out for help so you can love and celebrate the beautiful person you are, scars and all.
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